Please welcome today's guest, my friend Donna Fasano. She and I are both members of Sweet Romance Reads, an author cooperative. New to me, though--and maybe you'll love it too--the pretty and fun scarf she's wearing in her author photo.
But without further ado, here's Donna to talk about a subject that probably affects us all...
5 Tips for Facing Your Fears
Fear is a normal, natural human emotion. Fear can be—and often is—a very healthy thing. If, say, you give up smoking because you’re afraid of contracting lung cancer, then no one could argue that that was anything but a good thing. If, however, your fears kept you from living a full life, then that’s when fear becomes unhealthy. Here are some things that have helped me to face and overcome my fears.
1. IDENTIFY the fear — I put a specific name to my fear, whether it’s fear of speaking in public, or the fear of trusting a new friend, or the fear of losing my talent as a writer. Putting a name to it helps me to identify exactly has what has me feeling afraid. Once it’s out in the open, I can better deal with it.
2. PONDER why — Next I try to figure out why I am afraid. Am I afraid of giving a speech because I fear failure? Do I lack trust because I’ve been hurt in the past? Have I let too many weeks pass since I’ve sat down to write? Figuring out the whys behind my fears allow me to tap into the emotion more deeply, and help me recognize past experiences and associations that cause my fear.
3. VISUALIZE — I try to consciously picture myself when I did something brave. How did it make me feel? How did I feel after the event? Usually, I felt excited that I accomplished whatever fearsome task was at hand. This is a crucial step in the process that allows me to see that I can do those things that make me afraid and that, after doing them, I feel more alive.
4. BREATHE — Remaining calm is probably the most important step when I try to face my fears. Long, slow breaths are one method I use to soothe my anxiety. Another is to remind myself that I have overcome plenty of fears in the past. Having faith in yourself lifts your self-confidence.
5. JUST DO IT — Facing your fears allows you to discover just how strong and capable you are. The very thing you’re afraid of might end up being something you’re really good at, or something that will prove just how much potential you have inside. So go ahead and just do it. Face your fear. You’ll probably end up learning something new and exciting about yourself.
About RETURN OF THE RUNAWAY BRIDE — Savannah left Daniel at the altar, and she has been so afraid of facing him and the people of her hometown, that she stayed away for six years. Well, now Savannah is back—determined to face her fears.
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USA Today Bestselling Author Donna Fasano has written over 30 romance and women’s fiction novels. Her books have won awards and have sold 4 million copies worldwide. Her work is available in paperback, audiobooks, and ebooks for Kindle, Nook, Kobo, iBooks, and Google Play. Learn more about her at her , check out , and connect with her on , , and . She loves to hear from readers.